Mindset is everything. It really is. This is something we all know, but when the time comes to take control of our own attitudes, things can get a bit tricky. One of the most important factors in gaining control over the way you feel about both yourself and others is self-love.
regard for one’s own well-being and happiness (chiefly considered as a desirable rather than narcissistic characteristic).
Now, that definition seems pretty straightforward. Taking care of yourself… easy enough, right? For some people, maybe, but for most, it is hard to maintain this mindset when things take a turn. If high school has taught me anything, it is that you cannot control the people around you… the only thing you truly have control over is yourself. Building on that, I have found that once you take the step to practice self-love, your attitude(one flooded with positive energy)has a way of influencing the people around you. Think of it like this… it’s hard to spread love and make other people happy when you can’t say the same for yourself.
With all of that said, there can be a fine line between self-love and narcissism. Self-love isn’t about putting yourself on a pedestal where you look down on everyone else. It’s about loving the quirky parts of yourself and being able to acknowledge the areas where changes could be made. It’s about finding the good in yourself, capturing it and being able to support others as they go through the same process.
So, we can agree that self-love is pretty important… now what? I like to combine this aspect with what I like to call “mental health days.” Summer provides the perfect opportunity to put aside some time to make yourself happy. Whether that be through a drive around town listening to your favorite music, taking yourself out on a little date to that cafe up the street, or watching the sunset (or sunrise if you have your life together to that degree), be sure to make time for yourself… even if life tends to make that a difficult task.
Make a list of some things you want to improve on, but acknowledge all the bad-ass stuff you’ve done. It’s easy to compare ourselves to others, especially when living in the tailored world of social media, but there’s absolutely nothing wrong with admiring the good in ourselves… and others.
This isn’t one-sided… here’s my list.
- Make more space for time with family… they’re pretty important.
- Make a point to speak up more… whether it’s to spread positivity, squash negativity or just get involved.
- Give back to the community. Finding volunteer opportunities is easier than you’d think. It’s a great way to feel like you’re helping… and who doesn’t like that?
- Accept that some people may have different views and judge you based on yours. That’s just life and the nature of people isn’t going to change anytime soon. Juxtapositions are what make life interesting.
- Keep working hard but realize that life is about having fun, too. As long as you do your best, things *should* work out just fine.